Conversation Decks

People use them at the dinner table, on long drives, on date night, and at parties. The right deck depends on who is in the room. A question that works at a Tuesday team meeting will fall flat on an anniversary dinner, and a prompt written for your partner is not what you want in the school pickup line. So we sorted our question cards by audience. There are decks for new couples and long-term partners, decks that help kids put their thoughts into words, conversation starter cards for parties, friends, and colleagues, and structured decks for working out your values or reflecting on your own.

Getting started with a deck

Decks also differ in how fast they go deep. The Icebreaker Deck ranges from lighthearted to thought-provoking, the Deeper Talk Deck moves from light to deep, and the Intimacy Deck moves from comfortable to vulnerable at your own pace. If you are not sure the room is ready for deep, start light.

If you have never used a deck like this, the first card or two can feel forced. A few habits help. Answer first when you pull the card, so nobody feels put on the spot. Take turns on the same prompt before you move on. Skip any card you do not want, with no explanation. Stop after one good ten-minute talk, or keep going for an hour. The Intimacy, Little Talk, Icebreaker, and Deeper Talk decks also come with an envelope of Reflect & Connect cards for closing out the conversation.

Pick a deck by who you're talking with

• Partner: the Intimacy Deck or Relationship Deck for date night or a road trip, the Date Deck or It's a Date for planning time together, or the Intimacy After Dark Deck for the bedroom. Nuestra Intimidad is the Spanish edition of the Intimacy Deck.
• Family and kids: the Little Talk Deck and its Expansion Pack for one-on-one chats with kids, or the Family Talk Game Edition for the whole table.
• Friends and groups: the Icebreaker Deck for parties and team-building events, or the Deeper Talk Deck when friends, family, or colleagues want to move from light to deep.
• Yourself: the Self Discovery Deck for structured self-reflection, or the Core Values Deck to define your top values, alone or with someone else.
• A gift: the Birthday Deck, which doubles as a party game for all ages, or the Conversation Deck Bundle for a household that wants several decks.

All conversation decks

Relationship Deck, $26.99. A conversation card game for couples with prompts about values, fears, the future, and what you love about each other. No winners or points.

Intimacy Deck, $27. Conversation cards for new couples and long-term partners. Prompts move from comfortable to vulnerable at your own pace. Includes an envelope of Reflect & Connect cards.

Nuestra Intimidad, $28. The Spanish-language edition of the Intimacy Deck, with 150 questions in six categories: Pasado, Vida, Intimidad, Al Azar, Relación, and Sobre Nosotros.

Intimacy After Dark Deck, $34. Two decks in one box: conversation prompts for talking about sex, plus action cards with ideas to play and experiment with. Contains adult content.

Date Deck, $20. First-date conversation starters, meaningful questions, and fun prompts for time together.

It's a Date, $20. 52 date activities for a weekly date night or day, plus a date diary.

Icebreaker Deck, $27. 170 conversation starters in seven categories, plus a Reflect & Connect envelope. Lighthearted to thought-provoking, for parties, family gatherings, and team-building events.

Deeper Talk Deck, $27. 170 prompts in seven categories, including Courage, Beliefs, Life Lessons, and Dreams. Moves from light to deep, with friends, family, partners, colleagues, or people you have just met.

Little Talk Deck, $27. 170 portable question cards in seven categories, for kids and the adults in their lives, plus a Reflect & Connect envelope.

Little Talk Expansion Pack, $15. 50 more questions for the Little Talk Deck, for when you have worked through the original.

Family Talk Game Edition, $35. 150 questions and challenges in seven categories, with a color-coded die that picks the category each turn. For the dinner table, family trips, and gatherings.

Birthday Deck, $29. 75 cards for birthdays. A gift and an easy party game for guests of any age.

Core Values Deck, $25. Made with The ONE Thing team to help you define your top values and get on the same page in a relationship, family, friendship, or at work.

Self Discovery Deck, $39. A structured self-reflection deck in five phases: Foundation, Awareness, Connection, Integration, and Becoming.

Conversation Deck Bundle, $99. A bundle that includes the Little Talk Deck, Date Deck, an Icebreaker starter deck, the Deeper Talk Deck, and the Intimacy Deck.

If you're not sure where to start, pick the one person you most want a better conversation with this week and get the deck for them: the Intimacy Deck for a partner, the Little Talk Deck for a kid, the Icebreaker Deck for a group. If you want a deck for every room in the house, the Conversation Deck Bundle covers five of them in one order.